The most important question isn’t “What Can I Have?”
It’s “What Would I Love?”

Let’s get one thing straight.

You didn’t get where you are by being unrealistic.

You’re practical. Capable. Strategic. You understand schedules, budgets, markets, margins, and responsibilities. You’ve built a life that works — on paper, at least.

But here’s the question most successful women quietly avoid asking:

What would I love?

Not:

• What do I think I can have based on my calendar
• What feels reasonable given my bank account
• What fits neatly into my current circumstances
• What won’t rock the boat

Just…
What would I love?

Because that question doesn’t come from your conditioning.
It comes from your longing.

And for many high-achieving women, longing has been put on mute.

Your Soul Speaks in Longing — and in Discontent

Here’s something I’ve seen again and again in my work:

Your soul is always communicating.
You just may not like the delivery method.

It speaks through:

• Longing — the quiet “I wish…”
• Discontent — the irritation, frustration, restlessness, and exhaustion you try to override

We tend to judge both.

We label longing as unrealistic.
We label discontent as ingratitude.

But neither is a problem.

They’re data.

They’re feedback from the part of you that knows there’s more alignment available than the life you’re currently tolerating.

Longing Isn’t Weak — It’s Wise

Your longings sound like:

• “I wish I didn’t wake up already tired.”
• “I wish my life felt lighter, not so heavy.”
• “I wish I had time to enjoy what I’ve built.”
• “I wish work didn’t follow me everywhere.”
• “I wish there was more space for me.”

That’s not whining.
That’s intelligence.

A longing is your inner compass pointing toward expansion — before burnout forces the issue.

Discontent Is Just Longing Wearing a Grouchy Outfit

Now let’s talk about the part we really don’t want to admit.

Discontent.

The things you’re tired of:

• The client you’ve outgrown but keep saying yes to
• The schedule that feels like it owns you
• The success that looks good but feels hollow
• The constant pressure to be “on”
• The voice that says, I should be grateful — while something inside you quietly aches

Here’s the reframe that changes everything:

Discontent isn’t a sign you’re failing.
It’s a sign you’re evolving.

Every frustration is pointing to a deeper desire.

You’re not tired of working.
You’re tired of working without alignment.

You’re not tired of success.
You’re tired of success that costs you your peace.

Why “What Do I Think I Can Have?” Keeps You Stuck

Most women don’t ask What would I love?
They ask:

“What feels realistic right now?”

And realism, when it’s rooted in fear or past limitations, quietly becomes a cage.

You start editing your dreams to fit your circumstances instead of expanding your circumstances to fit your dreams.

But here’s the truth:

Your longing doesn’t care about your spreadsheet.
Your soul isn’t impressed by how reasonable you’re being.

It’s trying to lead you toward alignment, not approval.

Practical Ways to Start Listening Again

This doesn’t require quitting your job or moving to Tuscany (although… not ruling it out).

It requires attention.

1. Use Discontent as a Clue

Instead of shutting down frustration, ask:

• What am I tired of?
• What feels heavy right now?
• What am I tolerating that I wouldn’t choose again?

Then ask the follow-up question:
What would I love instead?

Example:
You dread your mornings.
You don’t need a new life — you may simply love more spacious mornings, less rushing, or starting the day on your terms.

That’s actionable.

2. Separate Longing from Logistics

Let longing speak before you ask how.

Write freely:

• What would I love in my work?
• What would I love in my body?
• What would I love in my relationships?
• What would I love with my time and money?

No editing. No practicality. No fixing.

Logistics come later.

3. Take One Aligned Step

You don’t need certainty.
You need movement.

One boundary.
One conversation.
One day off.
One decision that honors what you heard.

Alignment doesn’t happen through wishing alone — it happens through choice.

A Loving Reminder

You’ve spent years being the woman who handles things.
Who figures it out.
Who makes it work.

But success doesn’t have to mean self-abandonment.

Your longings aren’t indulgent.
They’re intelligent.

And your discontent isn’t complaining — it’s your soul asking for a course correction.

The most important question of your life isn’t:
What do I think I can have?

It’s:
What would I love — if I trusted myself enough to listen?

Join Me for The Vision Workshop

If you’re ready to stop negotiating with your soul and start listening to it, I’d love to have you join me for my next Vision Workshop.

Together, we’ll decode your longings and discontents across the four key areas of life:

• Health & well-being
• Love & relationships
• Vocation
• Time & money freedom

It’s insightful.
It’s energizing.
And yes — it’s fun.

Because the universe isn’t waiting for you to be more practical.
It’s waiting for you to be more honest.

And that starts with one powerful question:
What would I love?

Grab Your Seat Here